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LustyMady
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"Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help Me"
 
   7 months ago, I scheduled an appt with Jay, a 62 year old Caucasian male from Pittsburg, CA. He arrived for his appointment, nothing new. He sat on the bed and I came up from behind him and started rubbing his shoulders, massaging his chest and giving him little kisses. At that moment, something was different. I could see that my touch was appreciated, something I never encountered. There was something special, a tender touch, eskimo kisses, but it was different. When he left, he hugged me so tight and didn't want to let go. I found it odd, that he called me to tell me that he made it home safe. But again, there was something there.

I had went to Santa Clara and called him for a ride home. Again, there was that something. I didn't ask for compensation, but he provided it anyway. After that, it was just phone calls and text. I fell immediately, and soon we were boyfriend and girlfriend.

Our relationship was filled was a lot of guilt from me and his inability to separate my job and our relationship. There were a couple of times we broke up, but we got back together. He said he loved me so much that he could not let me go. He invited me to his house, see a future that could be perfect. My kid and his kids. I longed for that stability because I didn't feel worthy anymore.

But then something changed, he started pulling away. And then an ex entered the picture. And then he had to distance himself from me because his job was in jeopardy. There were lies that I knew he was saying. I just didn't want to see. it. I met him on a Thursday night, and I promised I would leave him alone so he would not be distracted. He said he couldn't see me because he had his girls. Something in me didn't trust him. I went to his house around midnight and he did have someone there. I was hurt and in shock, he told me to leave or I would be escorted out.

This was not the man who swore his love to me and dangled a future that I so wanted. The next day, he dismissed and told me never to contact him. I basically was left with no money and tried to contact him. He did leave $40 for me to pick up, which made me sad. He didn't care anymore and I was left angry, hurt, and confused. A friend of mine told me that he seemed to exhibit traits of a Sociopath, so I looked it up. Every trait except two described him. I was a victim who he chose and when I was not useful to him, he discarded without any remorse or quilt. I also found out that he had been seeing other providers. In my mind, I think I may have pushed him to do so. I want to think that he really is a Sociopath. If he isn't, then I'm some sort of monster who wasn't worth to be loved. I can't seem to find closure and it hurts. It's been about two weeks. I wanted one night with him, even though it's not real. The last couple of times, it felt more like a provider/client session.

Should I try to contact him? If he is a Sociopath, I cannot in good conscience, let him to continue to do this.

What should I do? Because I don't think Karma will catch up to him until another heart is broken like me.

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Shannonstar18
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1. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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   You got to be kidding me! Are you serious? You hook up with a 62 year old trick who will say or do anything for some free pussy from a younger woman and he is a sociopath that is hilarious. So you got flimflamed out of your fee for the rbgfe complete with dfk and a bbbj. Was he a good kisser did his cum taste good was it love at first bbbj. You are on here trying to get sympathy? Are you for fucking real? Please get a fucking life? Your heart is broke that is your fault not some tricks. Your bankroll is broke that's your fault too. Do you want us to take up a money collection for providers who had their heart broke by a trick. If you would have been about your business you would have broken him for all his money or a good portion of it. Yes this is a cold business at times. Hook up with a nice square guy and get a square job and retire you most likely will be happier. Don't look for love in the wrong places. Get a guy closer to your age within 10 years and if need be retire from this if that man can't handle you being a provider. I am way younger than you and I have enough common sense not to do what you did. If I was a little cold in my post call it tough love. Move on and don't do something so irrational and stupid again please! Good luck.

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LustyMady
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2. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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   Thank you. You don't have to sound so angry, I was just venting. But for me it was love, something I can't change. Good luck to you...

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athenagivings
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3. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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Wow! That story just was very mindblowing. No disrespect, but what were you thinking about hooking up with a 60+ man. Umm, Im really shocked. I've been in this business for a while now, I would have to say, yeah I have had good relationship with my clients, but NOT IN LOVE relationships like that.

Based on what you said, It seems like your lonely in life, and your looking for a grandparent to love you, but I think you might went beyond in this situation. I agree with Shannon. The man just wanted some free pussy, hate to tell you that. Especially if he met you in the business, words are words honey, anyone could tell you they loved you, that doesn't mean to give him what he wants.

JUST A LITTLE ADVISE NEXT TIME DOWN THE ROAD:

If your escorting-- don't have relationship meaning bf's with your clients.. That doesn't work period, not in my book.

If you're looking for a relationship look on the "OUTSIDE" of your buisness..

A TRICK IS A TRICK, A JOHN IS A JOHN, A JOE IS A JOE, AND THE WAY THEY THINK... P*U*S*S*Y!!

They have game too honey, like I said no disrespect, but Im young and I know that for a fact I would never fall in that trap. Hate to ask you this.. But How Long Have You Been In The GAME FOR???

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LustyMady
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4. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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   I've been doing for this 9 months. It's just hard to let go when I was dismissed so cruelly and to know that he has been someone else brings me to tears. I left a message for him today that I let go and not to contact me ever. I just wanted one more time before my birthday in a couple of days and he wouldn't give me that. Oh well, life goes on, right?

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BLONDEBARBIEJLM
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5. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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   Her ad says shes 30 to 37, not 18-21... so maybe it is possible she might have had some feelings for the man....dam 62 tho....ok maybe he was like a well kept 62? I keep gettin a vision of Sean Connery lol. Being in this profession over time you learn to train the mind to have little to no emotion...somebody may show us a good time, but we all know this is a job. Were not you, so we really don't know whats going on in your head there....but if you are choosing to do this to get by and pay bills gettin to personal with someone probably is not the best thing....if he is seeing escorts now, what makes you think if you drop everything to be with him...he won't be doing it again?? Being in a relationship while being an escort is a very difficult thing...if you want to make any money in this you need to put those emotions to the side.

now if he looks like sean connery forget everything i just said


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athenagivings
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6. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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LAST EDITED ON 23-May-10 AT 03:50 PM (PST)
 
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i CAN'T GET MY ARROW TO POINT TO THE TOP ANYHOW..
LOL..THAT'S FUNNY:)

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MsCHO
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7. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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   hey, Richard Gere is one hottie at age 62. One of my reg is very well preserved 67 year old man, tall with very handsome face and still in good shape..classy gentleman... I can tell he must had movie star good looks in his younger day.

Anyhoo...dear lady, if you are wearing your heart on your sleeve, maybe this bizz is not for you. hopefully You can learn from this experience and become more wise.

I looked at your ad and if I were you, I would drop 50,80 for 15 minutes and half hour. You do not want to present yourself as a high volume and basement bargain deal.

perhaps You can re think your business stregidy and do not have sex with clients but just offer fbsm.

You expressed a desire to have one more night with him..whatever for??
right now you are full of emotion and cannot think clearly..you are in verge of becoming a stalker.

if You are able, professional counseling might not be a bad idea...

Good luck~


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SayuriYun
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8. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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LAST EDITED ON 25-May-10 AT 08:16 PM (PST)
 
Dear LustyMady,

I understand what kind of pain and heart ache you are feeling. I do not blame you for falling in love with him. Sometimes it is hard to control our emotions or who we fall in love with.

Stay strong and inbox me if you want to talk further.

-Sayuri Yun

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Nicolette69
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9. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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   Very interesting post. I don't doubt that your feelings for him were real, but men are very strange creatures. Some days they act like they can't live without us, and other days, we are yesterdays news. This is why they see escorts and other providers. They can't seem to remain true or interested in one lady for long. Another point to this could be that your feelings were slightly disguised by not being able to be an emotional creature, which we as women have no choice but to be.

I have noticed on a personal level, that the longer I do this, the more non emotional I become. But, even I at times tend to hope for that nice dream of a white picket fence. The dream, unfortunately never evolves.

They will never look at us as house wives or girl friends. They see us for what we are. Sad but true.


Your secret GFE

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miabarcelona
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10. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
In response to message #8
 
>Dear LustyMady,
>
>I understand what kind of pain and heart ache you are
>feeling. I do not blame you for falling in love with him.
>Sometimes it is hard to control our emotions or who we fall
>in love with.
>
>Stay strong and inbox me if you want to talk further.
>
>-Sayuri Yun

I agree with this completely. Your feelings were real. Don't doubt yourself. My sister is 40 and dating an 80 year old. I would never do that, but to each his or her own. I have also only been doing this for a year, and I fell in love too. Believe me, I am not a woman who falls in love easily. I have no doubt that he was in love too. But it ended. And I am moving on. I know the rule is that you are not supposed to fall in love with clients, but sometimes like this person said, you cannot control who you fall in love with. Keep your head up! Time heals all. It really does.

MIA:)

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athenagivings
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11. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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YUP YOU WERE DUMPED.. THE PUSSY AND HEAD WASN'T GOOD ENOUGH, THAT'S WHY HE KEEPS ON SEEING OTHER ESCORTS NOW YOU DUMB BITCH

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SexyChocAzz
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12. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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Yes, just move on honey! Love and relationships are so overrated!

~Big Girls Ride Harder!!~

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KamaDevi
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18. "Yes Dumped."
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   Classy response Athena...
Yes, you were dumped and yes, his behavior does seem sociopathic. That being said there's nothing you can do about another's behavior except to get out of the way. Lots of people are sociopaths.
Consider yourself lucky that the relationship didn't go farther than it did.
Sorry you got hurt. Dating clients is almost never a good idea.

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great_day_to_play
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13. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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Are you serious?

People love tigers, but not many can survive being in cages with them.

You loved him and he loves him... who the hell will love you? I don't mean to sound harsh here. I understand you love him... that the pain you feel is real. And although it does not help to say it... but this too will pass.... better you find out what is what this early on than if you had gotten your children mixed up with that guy..

Take care of yourself and your children.

It does not matter if he is a sociopath or not.. who the hell cares what is wrong with him...

Create your own stability.
As my sister says.... don't be part of your problem. Be part of your solution.


peace.lust.laughter

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SeaShels
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14. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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Hang in there. Life goes on and gets better too!

XOXO
Shelley

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billydetroit
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15. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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You will find someone else who is better suited for you- probably faster than you think. xo bd

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lola_kitty
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16. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help"
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You can't do this and have a boyfriend, it won't work plain and simple. And if it does work, and he's allowing it, he doesn't care about you. DUH!! Really! I mean hello!!! It's impossible, I would either set a goal of how much money you want to make and when you accomplish that get your ass in school and get a real career! Get in and get out, you can't do this forever, or expect to be in a healthy relationship while still doing this. Some girls can though, but I know it's hard and definitely not for you. Yes I agree with the other girl do massages, you seem to get too attached by sex.

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17. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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   Goes to tell you some females do NOT belong in this GAME!!!

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19. "Best of luck to you :)"
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   I was just breezing on through here (a bit of downtime between appointments) and saw the mean-spirited and frankly brutal responses to your post. It makes me sad to see women ripping each other apart. None of us are perfect. Yes, some providers may have more difficulty navigating the 'gray' areas of this business. So that justifies insulting them? Women have to learn that they'll get nowhere fast if they don't support each other. Isn't it tough enough for females out there?

I wish you well LustyMady. You've probably gotten over this guy by now, but if you you haven't, realize that other people's issues are just that - theirs and theirs alone. It rarely has much to do with who you are. Maybe he was having a late mid-life crisis, or an extremely extended and unresolved one. God knows I've known those types. Something like a divorce can certainly push those mid-life issues into overdrive. Don't worry about him either. I'm sure he has barrels of money for sessions with an overpriced shrink somewhere...

Take care of yourself. It's a better bet you'll have happier relationships if you do that one thing first.

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20. "RE: Best of luck to you :)"
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LAST EDITED ON 17-Nov-10 AT 07:10 PM (PST)
 
All I can say is try your best to get over it when it goes sour and when it is going good enjoy it while it lasts. True it may be somewhat harder to get a good S.O.when you are a escort-provider but hey even people outside this biz go through the same thing. They meet someone, love someone then break up with a broken heart. We can't always blame being a provider as the cause. Sometimes it is no ones fault we just change and we no longer are compatible with that person as being their S.O. (Significant other). It is just part of being human.

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21. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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   I think providers run risks for getting involved with clients. Why do this, because they have some sort of access to you and this is your only way of getting involved with the opposite sex?
This is where you meet most men? Providers are isolated often and don't get out to meet other people. That's my experience. Wanna know who you are dealing with, simply change jobs. You will still have many of the same challenges with your new job. You still will get guys that dangle carrots. But what you won't get is the feeling that you did something wrong
because you already have low self esteem because you are a provider and then promptly blame yourself. Not that being provider makes you automatically have low self esteem, but you can always have a look inside yourself to find out why you fell for him, when you could be dating somewhere else - someone else.
I know you didn't ask my advice. My advice? Just don't fall for a client and if you do, put him through a few hoops. These guys we really like need to chase women just like the other ones.
We all want to be loved and and have stability in our lives. Life is not fair and security is an illusion.


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sexy_elena
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22. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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   What were you thinking...? Apparently not MONEY!!! what was he thinking?? FREE PUSSY!!! 40$??????? The sooner you learn your worth the more successful your gona be.

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oshunshoney
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23. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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What is you weren't wrong for choosing to follow an impulse?

What if you made it work for you?

What if relationships aren't meant to be monogomus and long term?
What if you could have boyfriends and clients?

Ask is this for fun for me? Is this creating peace for me? Is this contributing more than enough money in my life?

Funny tool. Let go. Let go move on enjoy the sweetness of the hurt and the bitterness of the change.

Make your life work and serve you.

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Monica_Mistress
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24. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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   WTF is going on. Sociopath I think not. Honey you the Hunter have just been captured by the game the hobbyist. Please date men not the clients. He used you. Free Free that should piss you off. He took food out of your children's mouth.

Your are pulling my leg never mind the rest of what I wrote & what's above this. Thank you for this joke. I needed this.



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You got to be kidding me! Are you serious? You hook up with a 62 year old trick who will say or do anything for some free pussy from a younger woman and he is a sociopath that is hilarious. So you got flimflammed out of your fee for the rbgfe complete with dfk and a bbbj. Was he a good kisser did his cum taste good was it love at first bbbj. You are on here trying to get sympathy? Are you for fucking real? Please get a fucking life? Your heart is broke that is your fault not some tricks. Your bankroll is broke that's your fault too. Do you want us to take up a money collection for providers who had their heart broke by a trick. If you would have been about your business you would have broken him for all his money or a good portion of it. Yes this is a cold business at times. Hook up with a nice square guy and get a square job and retire you most likely will be happier. Don't look for love in the wrong places. Get a guy closer to your age within 10 years and if need be retire from this if that man can't handle you being a provider. I am way younger than you and I have enough common sense not to do what you did. If I was a little cold in my post call it tough love. Move on and don't do something so irrational and stupid again please! Good luck.
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❤Monica Mistress❤

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PrettyLeila
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25. "RE: Heartbroken and Can't Move On....Was I Duped? Help "
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Hes not a sociopath. Hes just in pain and confused like so many of us.

Hugs,
Leila

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