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BLONDEBARBIEJLM
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440 posts		 19-Apr-10, 02:35 PM (PST)
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"can i get an opinion?"
 
   Would you ladies rather persue taking a relationship farther with someone who was a total scrub, but he really really loved you and would do anything for you.....or would you persue the man who was the go getter and was finacially stable and going somewhere in his life and says he loves you but probably not as much as the scrub?

Which one?? take it farther with the scrub...and hope he gets stable in the future? or persue it with the financially stable guy and hope he can learn to love you as much as the scrub does??

what would you do?

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Shannonstar18
Member since 15-Nov-08
209 posts		 20-Apr-10, 09:44 AM (PST)
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1. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   Is love that important? I mean love is cool I have a guy who loves me but more important he accepts me for who I am and I accept him even with his "sordid" past lol (he is a reformed booster/professional shoplifter). He goes to college now and works part time and pays the cable, internet, all phone bills plus the electric. I pay the rent and pay for food. He doesn't make much but he contributes and I feel we have a future together. Now who wants a total scrub or loser just because he is so romantic and loves you more. I mean how do you measure who loves you more. It is just a feeling mind you. I say as long as the responsible go getta type dude loves you and respects you go with him. Better than a loser scrub who "loves" you more. A lot of times we feel a guy loves you more because he has a more romantic rap and will buy us candy and flowers more often or pampers our pussy a little bit better. Stick with a winner and base the relationship more on trust, honesty and loyality than love. Love is cool but it ain't shit without trust and loyality and a good foundation.

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BLONDEBARBIEJLM
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440 posts		 20-Apr-10, 02:29 PM (PST)
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2. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   your right, I guess I look at the future with the person, because I have delt with losers in the past so i want to be secure. But to find someone who truley accepts you for all that you are faults and all it is hard to come by...guess I knew the answer and was looking for confirmation....

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purechocol8
Member since 20-Sep-04
8171 posts		 21-Apr-10, 12:51 PM (PST)
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3. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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can't pay the bills on love.
I am not willing to date a man still trying to get it together.
I come from a family that believes men are suppose to be providers and protectors.

If I can provide for myself and he is getting on his feet why would I lower my standards. I'd rather let him get it together then if he seriously loves me he will come for me then.

I can't stand a broke ass man


Love is life, & if u miss love, u miss life

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Shannonstar18
Member since 15-Nov-08
209 posts		 21-Apr-10, 04:17 PM (PST)
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4. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   Purechocalate it is every rare if not impossible you are going to be a prostitute and have a square boyfriend who will know about what you do and accept it let alone the guy really has a lot of money or a high power job or both. Unless of course you lie and act like you are a square girl and get him to pay for everything and then fuck and suck and turn tricks making provider money behind his back and won't pick up the tab for a cup of coffee when you go out with him. A square guy who is rich won't want you for a girlfriend or wife 99.999999% of the time. So Purechocolate I think you are living in a fantasy world lol.

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Lovely_Snow
Member since 4-Nov-09
1 posts		 27-Apr-10, 11:13 PM (PST)
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5. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   Is keep em both an option?

Born free!! .. now I'm expensive.

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BLONDEBARBIEJLM
Member since 20-Jan-06
440 posts		 29-Apr-10, 00:38 AM (PST)
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6. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   yea actually it is LOL I been bad I will put it that way! put them together they make one complete man.

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JASMIN3
Member since 29-Dec-08
53 posts		 29-Apr-10, 06:30 PM (PST)
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7. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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Lol! Together they do make one complete man cus you actually need both to be happy when you think about it...
If you really have to choose though...Don't settle! Obviously the scrub loves you but you don't honestly love him for who he is...you love him for how he treats you and who he could one day be. And obviously the financially stable guy is lacking something and money doesn't buy love...although it does buy happiness

For every guy you drop you gain 3 more so don't settle yet girlie

KISSES...

JASIE

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Lovely_Snow
Member since 4-Nov-09
1 posts		 29-Apr-10, 09:42 PM (PST)
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8. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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   Exactly my point!

There's a commedian.. Monique maybe? I don't remember. She did a skit on how every woman needs like 10 men...
1 for the conversation
2 for the going out/fun guy
3 for the financial aspect
4 for fixing stuff around the house the mr.fix it
Last but not least #5 for the sex.

The more the marrier I say. lol

Born free!! .. now I'm expensive.

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spinnersummer
Member since 3-Feb-09
119 posts		 11-May-10, 00:08 AM (PST)
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9. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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Wow I'm only 20 but I could really learn something form you lady's Thanks! It's nice to knw I can come here for help. You lady's are great Love Summer

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KarmaLuv
Member since 12-Mar-07
125 posts		 18-Jun-10, 12:26 PM (PST)
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10. "RE: can i get an opinion?"
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I think you shouldn't settle either.... You're gorgeous. There are men out there that have most of the package... Love, finance, and affection that are willing to take a provider. There aren't that many to go around seeing that we have so many providers. lol But I totally confident that you will have that in the bag in no time... JUST DON"T SETTLE FOR EITHER. If you're asking about which one, chances are it's neither... Because when it's right, you'll know.
No fantasy or settling needed!

This is just my opinion though

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