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msmonetcummings00
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25-May-09, 03:32 PM (PST)
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"Should I stay or should I go?!?"
 
   Alright ladies... I kinda have a problem... Over my vacation I met this guy, eventually we started dating. I just told him about my "other life" he doesn't hold it against me but he doesn't want me working either. I tried to explain to him that my job is income that helps me and him do the things we need and like to do. Now money is getting tight and I want to start working again to maintain my bills. I'm not sure if I can work and keep him too!

Any advice?!?

-Ms. Monet Cummings

... a hard man is good to find!

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Emilie
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01-Jun-09, 05:07 PM (PST)
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1. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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   Don't let this guy dictate how you make your living. Go back to work and don't tell him. If he finds out, tell him TOO BAD and if he doesn't like it he can leave. If he comes back after a short time making demands and giving ultimatums, don't give in. Have sex with him and be sweet to him, but never let him tell you how to live your life. If he's got the typical I-don't-want-MY-woman-doing-that attitude, then good-riddance to him if he doesn't come back. Enjoy the nightmare ahead.

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HottestLatinaLover
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14-Jun-09, 04:31 PM (PST)
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2. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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LAST EDITED ON 14-Jun-09 AT 04:32 PM (PST)
 
This is such a hard topic for you and many other providers.

When we are independent and looking for a guy, we want one who is understanding of what we do, yet once we fall in love we want a man who doesnt want us escorting. I mean, what kind of a man WOULD want his woman doing this type of thing right? Also, its almost impossible to find someone who will accept what we do.

I have tried dating, and most of the time everything goes downhill once he finds out what I am doing for a living. The guys who say they are okay with it usually end up only in it for themselves, either to use us as sex objects or to try and get some type of money out of us. None are really serious.

Although I do believe there are a small percentage of men who could love a whore, I think its like searching for a needle in a haystack.

YOU AND ONLY YOU can decide what is right for your sittuation. Take the time to listen to him. Is he worth you being broke? Does he make you happy? Do you feel like you could replace him or find someone better? Do you want to? If you have found someone who really, really loves you then you cannot trade that love for any amount of cash. However, if he really loves you wont he understand?

Perhaps if you explain your goals to him in detail. Sit down together and discuss what it is he IS comfortable with... Like say, okay a 6 month goal and you want to save 10,000. and then retire. Or a year. Perhaps he would agree to just let you do massage or domination if he is able to see your ad and trust that you will not be having sex with clients. There has to be a compromise. I think you already know the answer you are seeking. You cannot have love without sacrafice, trust and forgiveness.

I wish you so much luck girl, I know how hard it can be!

HottesLatinaLover / HotLatinaLove

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AmandaLee
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18-Jun-09, 11:17 AM (PST)
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3. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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I have some thoughts on this but would like to know if you are even in the relationship now since this post was written several weeks ago. What have you decided?

"Too much of a good thing is wonderful."

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nilah_summers
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22-Jun-09, 08:41 PM (PST)
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4. "Is That Even A Question"
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   Girl, If your man is not hitting every spot, or doing right by you then i feel there is NO NEED TO PROCEED........

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SashaXrated
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25-Jun-09, 06:11 PM (PST)
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5. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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I think it depends on how much you care about him. Are you willing to give up a few things for him? Is he worth it? The hard part is you have to think about yourself too. If he can make enough to put a roof under your head and a few other expenses, you should try working a conventional job or two. Overall, it will never work out with you in the biz and be with him at the same time. I'm assuming there will be lots of jealousy.

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PrincessCupcake
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27-Jun-09, 12:58 PM (PST)
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6. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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LAST EDITED ON 27-Jun-09 AT 01:03 PM (PST)
 
Hey msmonetcummings, sorry you're in this situation he sounds like a nice guy, he cares about you and doesn't want you to be doing dangerous things, i'm not a expert on guys but one time I was talking to this guy who stop talking to me because he wanted me not to doing "this" and I couldn't because I was already addicted to the $$$ n life style, and my family didn't have money like that anyways, I miss him and think about him everyday OMG girl! He was so fine! But he didn't care enough about me to stay, so now I have a new bf that is fine w/ me working

Hey Nilah! You prob. Dnt remember me but you spent the night @ my house one time, you had a shot and started sitting on my bf's lap, I'm glad to see you agian I wish you would have stayed longer I have thought about you latley, latley we been having girls that are not as nice as you. I like new pics and your hair, is cute! It's good to see that your okay I think it was around Christmas that we met

I love California!!!!

.*Princess Cupcake*.

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Charlene_Cummings
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04-Jul-09, 01:41 AM (PST)
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7. "RE: Should I stay or should I go?!?"
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   This is a hard one...i think follow your heart if you like working and its something that you want to do and he cant appreciate or respect that then he is not the guy for you hun... this is a choice that only you can make....Good luck

Charlene

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