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Jolie_Fair
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29-Aug-10, 06:32 PM (PST)
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"I'm Bella Swan...?"
 
So I'm married and while not super happy in that relationship I would say I am very content. I stopped looking for the greener grass long ago and just decided to do this (providing) to sort of go to the park and play in the grass.
Anyway we have a circle of friends and a new guy (friend of a friend) was introduced. I recall the first time I set eyes on him I was shocked at how attractive he was and immediately left the room and avoided him. Turns out he did the same, avoided me.

We were both instantly attracted to each other in and yet it was so awkward. He thought I didn't like him and I thought the same of him. Eventually we were forced to talk to each other (socially) and something totally clicked. We "got" each other. We fell in love with the others mind and how the other thought and spoke and talked for hours. At other parties we always ended up talking all night. Even then we still avoided any eye contact or being too close to the other.

This last week we were left alone and the first few hours were gruelingly awkward and tense. After some time we decided to wait outside for the others but it was really cold. I’m not sure who made the first move but eventually we got close to stay warm. The moment we touched I literally had the air sucked out of my lungs and it was like an electrical shock shot though my body leaving me with a euphoric tingling. I have never felt anything like this before. Within an hour we were kissing and touching each other like a neither one of us had ever been with another person before, like it was magic. It was so intense and yet familiar and safe. It seemed like we were to cosmic puzzle pieces that just fit. Before I left he told me he loved me and I felt the same, it was not weird at all.

We are both married, not happily but married. Neither of us have experienced this sensation before and it’s beyond intoxicating, it’s addictive. I have not been able to think of anything or anyone else since then.

Everything that happened that night was the most romantic, perfect and unlikely thing imaginable.

I have seen this happen to other people, but it’s different when it’s yourself I guess. I can’t imagine how he and I could ever make it work but at the same time I feel like I would do almost anything to feel the way I do with him. There are kids and complications that make this not worth perusing but how do you walk away from something like that?

He's my Edward...

Has this happened to anyone else?
If so, what the heck did you do?
What was the outcome?
Will it pass if I pretend it didn’t happen?
Does it get worse?

Jolie Fair
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SavannahPeach1
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29-Aug-10, 06:47 PM (PST)
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1. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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Wow!!! That's beautiful. It has never happened to me so I don't have any advice. But I know if it happen to me I would never let it go. We all are looking for a feeling like that and very few of us find it. Good Luck!

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rachelsonoma1
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29-Aug-10, 07:00 PM (PST)
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2. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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   Yes, it has happened to me. That is probably the best feeling I have ever had, not the actual orgasm, but the lust I felt for that man, who was the sexiest man on earth to me because of our mental connection. You are very eloquent, suggesting you are self-aware. I have a question for you. Are you mature enough to enjoy an affair with this guy, but at the same time maintain your other relationships? Needless to say, you must always put your kids first, but we are only on this earth for a short time, so if you can get some time where the kids are being properly looked after, and be with him for a few hours, sounds like sparks will fly. Only get together with him once in a while. Make it clear to him not to pressure you to see him more often than that.

Just keep asking yourself: "Am I present with my kids? Is this affair hurting them in any way?" Don't ever be late picking them up. Everything in moderation, including lustful, wanton sex, LOL.

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SavannahPeach1
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29-Aug-10, 10:16 PM (PST)
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3. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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I was asked to post this by 1acloner.

She did not have a 'reply'on her posting so I am sending it to you so that you might post it please. Being a male I can't post it on Girl Talk.
C. S. Lewis once wrote, “Delight that never fades, bliss that is eternal is only yours when what you most desire is just out of reach.” For those for whom this idea holds true, I can't help but wonder, perhaps, it is simply that what we desire simply doesn't exist. How can any mortal live up to the divine fantasy we tend to create? Enjoy the utopian moments you stumble upon, but don't expect them to last. Nothing with an unlimited supply is ever valued. The real gift of moments of bliss is just that…they are moments.

Lou at The Island Ranch

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TheGildedRose
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30-Aug-10, 11:29 AM (PST)
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4. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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LAST EDITED ON 30-Aug-10 AT 11:33 AM (PST)
 
I hate to be the big stick in the mud but... In the book, about Co-dependents, the very first paragraph starts: if you every are at a party and your eyes lock with someone across the room - run the other way! Why? This is usually a sign of lust, not love, and may have some unhealthy componants following along.

I agree to think of the kids too. While you are fantasizing you are Bella Swan, remember, she was/is not married and neither is this Edward. They are NOT REAL. They are charactors in a book someone made up. In fact, Edward is a vampire. So I think it might be best to not compare yourself to fictional charactors.

Sure it is exciting and fun with mystery man. He is not in the house with you dealing with the kids and life's daily pressures. As soon as the affair wears off and you two perhaps move in and he has to deal with raising your kids, the rent, daily life, seeing you on your period with zits on your face, and you have to see him having the flu, and what not. Things will change.

My advice is to enjoy the affair until you find out about this guy. Is he an alcoholic? Does he have a job? Is there any red flags and if there are, can you be honest about it? If not, and you can prepare your children for the mess ahead, then God bless you.

xoxo, Rose

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Sexxxy_Sadie
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30-Aug-10, 11:30 AM (PST)
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5. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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If you have never felt anything like this then it will definitely not just go away with time. The heart wants what the heart wants BUT only you can decide where your life will go. If your marriage is one of security and comfort but there has never been any spark then you will eventually find that spark again with someone else. It is a tough choice but you really do only get one life.

Also there is truth to people naturally wanting what we don't have. I think it's easy to create a fantasy around someone we don't spend everyday with. You don't get to see their faults or annoy/get annoyed with them. So the "idea" of them is much better than the actuality and you don't find that out until way later.

I am a true romantic though so this connection you have seems worth exploring to me! Just be careful not to hurt your family.

Everyone's got a heart. Find a way to touch it.

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lola_kitty
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30-Aug-10, 06:31 PM (PST)
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6. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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Do you want my 2 cents?! Do NOT leave your husband or family for this guy!!! I hope you already knew that;)...The reason why things are so lovely and blissful right now is because you just met! I know what feeling you are talking about and it's called LUST! It fades within time, but don't give up your whole life for this dude. Keep the marriage and kids and keep your secret lover on the side! If your husband isn't a total control freak you can totally get away with this, you are so lucky! It really can't get any better than this...

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LovePlusPeace
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01-Sep-10, 00:47 AM (PST)
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7. "RE: I'm Bella Swan...?"
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I can't believe you think and some other people believe to think it was such a romantic gesture or experience...

As a female hooker, you would have some experience and limits that you would not cross over...

First of all you are married, guess it is okay when you are working to sleep and kiss other guys, BUT to do so for emotional fullfilment is wrong and knowing that the guy you are fooling with is married too...

This relationship will not last and nothing good willl come out of it...

If by any chance you wind up together, you will always wonder if he is going to leave you for the next girlfriend he meets and will not fully trust him...

The feeling for him will be as yours too, cause he knows that you crossed a line and will think you will do the same for him...

Since both of you don't have any respect for your true partners, even if your marriage is rocky, either fix it or end it first before screwing around on the people you claim to love...

This experience is not love not the slightest romantic, get your head off the pink cloud and put it on top of your neck...

Next time you see the married guy, make sure you ask him for your money...

Jolie, and have read your posts and your interaction in here and I truly find you a good well rounded person, BUT this one is not your best choice...

And I am not attacking you and I don't want you to feel bad of what I have said, cause it is not my intention to make you feel bad, just to share my own point of view...

Now run the opposite side of whereever the married guy is going, all the best in dealing with your private live...

Love11

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