"Client Doublespeak"

1. If a Client tells you that he is Red or works for Red Book - He is Liar - Avoid!
2. If a Client Asks for discounts in exchange for good reviews - He is a Manipulator - Avoid!
3. If a Client Asks for 30 min rates even though your ad has no mentioning of such - Bargain Hunter - proceed with caution (but you don't have to!)

4. If a Client wants to have BBFS in exchange for a good review, know that many men will write a good review for your good services, without you having to do BBFS for it.

5. If a Client wants to be your friend, yet also wants a discount for being your friend. Please know, he is not your friend, but what we seasoned providers call a "Friendly Lowballer".

6. If a Client offers to take pictures, please know no matter how much you may trust a Client, he may not have good intentions on what he does with those pictures. Our suggestion is to get a someone outside of the business, and tell that Photographer you need Boudoir photos for your boyfriend. This way reassuring you, that no one can blackmail, post in private forums, any private photos of you, without your approval or knowledge.

Many Providers get Female photographers or other provider friends, who may want to exchange photography skills. But luckily Their are also trusted and valued provider photographers, for further information on these trusted photographers please look in the Resource Forum.

We highly recommend not letting any of your clients take any photos of you. With exceptions Im sure, but, please be very discreet in your choosing.

Your PinkBook Inbox

Checking your inbox and sending Inboxes

1.Register onto Redbook.

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=user_register

2.Then log onto either Redbook or Pinkbook:

http://forum.myredbook.com/cgi-bin/dcforum2/dcboard.pl?az=login

3.look at the links (ON the top of the page -In light blue) that read:

Logout Search Read New Mark All User Menu Inbox Chat:lite:small Reviews Shop

4.Click on the "Inbox" link.

Read your Inbox.

To SEND a message :

1. Follow steps 1 through 4 above (For reading an inbox)

2. In White Box: "Send message to"- Type the Rb or Pinkbook name of the person you want to contact.

3. Click "GO"

4. A new page will pop up. you will see a "Subject" box and a "Message" box with a "send" and "reset" located at the bottom of the "Message" box.

5. In the "Subject" box type in your subject such as; Getting back to you, or , Hi it's me Yummy, Or ,just a "Hello". You get the idea.

6.Now, in the "Message" box you can write your text, text meaning words that you want that person to read. Type what you want to say in that "Message " box.

Your'e almost done!

7. Click "Send" the button located below your message box.

8. Your message has been sent!

9. If you make a mistake on your writing, you can click "Reset" to start over.

Also-

To send Inboxes a super fast way:

Every time a person posts, they have some icons located on the upper right corner of their post. The poster may or may not choose to show to the public any contact information. But they have a choice of showing their contact information; One being their Inbox . Which looks like this:

http://www.mypinkbook.com/dcforum2/User_files/1112k31411be076b.jpg

Click on that icon and it will bring you to that person's inbox in a flash!

Now you can stay in touch easily here on Rb and PinkBook!

According to current statistics from the Department of Justice, over 1 million women and over 300,000 men are stalked each year in America alone. With numbers like these it is prudent to make yourselves aware of the problem of stalking and what you can do about it, and where to get help should you, or someone you know becomes the victim of a stalker.

In most stalking cases, the victim is pursued on average...between 2 months to 2 years, and in some cases much more than that. Most stalkers suffer from a personality disorder, and many have a history of stalking behavior. It is important to note that while not all stalkers are violent, it is never safe to assume that a stalker is harmless. Assuming they are harmless could be a fatal mistake.

Some quick facts on stalking statistics...
http://www.ncvc.org/src/AGP.Net/Components/DocumentViewer/Download.aspxnz?DocumentID=40616

Myths and realities on stalking...
http://www.ncvc.org/src/AGP.Net/Components/DocumentViewer/Download.aspxnz?DocumentID=40528

The main goal of most stalkers is to instill fear...the more you fear them...the more powerful they feel. They are also seeking attention from their intended victims, so a response of any kind from the victim may only result in further harassment from the stalker.

Psychiatrists have profiled stalkers into the following "types"...

* The rejected stalker. This person was rejected in a relationship, and they perceive it as an insult, they feel wounded, and they are seeking vindication.

* The resentful stalker. These are self-righteous, self-pitying people who may threaten, but they are the least likely to act on it.

* The intimacy-seeking stalker. They believe they are loved or will be loved by the victim. Often they focus on someone of higher social status. This person is mentally ill and delusional.

* The incompetent. This person is socially backward. He doesn't really understand the social rules involved in dating and romance. He doesn't mean any harm.

* The predator. This is about sexual gratification, control, and violence. The stalker doesn't necessarily know the victim. The victim may not know she is being stalked. But a predator plans their attack, rehearses it, has lots of sexual fantasies about it.

According to psychiatrists, the rejected and predatory stalker profiles are the most likely types to physically assault their victims. Additionally, a typical stalker is usually an isolated and shy person, one who lives alone. They typically lack any type of important intimate relationships...not just sexual, but friends or family as well. There's also a narcissistic personality disorder together with a very low self-esteem.

The stalker feels that they're the most important person in the world, reject them for any reason...and you may become their target of vengeance.

California penal codes on stalking, punishment for threats, etc., can be found here...
http://www.ncvc.org/src/main.aspx?dbID=DB_California176

So, what should you do if someone is stalking you?

It is recommended that the stalking victim stop all contact with the stalker. Do not answer the stalkers phone calls...but do keep a detailed log of calls, keep recorded messages (including text messages), emails, letters as proof of the stalking/harassment should you need to take legal action to stop the stalker. When it is appropriate, change your phone number, email accounts, install privacy features on your computer, use a secure mailbox, and move if you feel you need to.

Inform your employer (if you have one), family and neighbors of the stalking/harassment, and provide them with a physical description of the stalker, as well as a description of their car if these things are known.

If your stalker is following your moves outside, it is wise to try and make sure that you limit the times when you are physically vulnerable. Take a self-defense class to heighten your senses, and to give yourself a chance to escape and survive, should your stalker physically attack you.

For more info on stalking, follow the links below.

www.ncvc.org/src/ - 107k
http://www.stalkingbehavior.com/definiti.htm
http://www.antistalking.com/resource.htm

Deb